“True power has nothing to do with money, or fame or outside appearances, but with our connection to self, love, authenticity, and the inner mystery of life.”
“Powerful people are the ones who have the strongest connection to their internal resources.”
– Heatherash Amara
A few weeks ago I had the realization that emotional (shadow) stuff has been coming up in my life in a way I haven’t experienced since I was 24 – 12 years ago on the start of my spiritual journey. Ego stuff.
It’s the perfect time for this to come up as I move forward in my business – it obviously needs to be shifted and cleared again. Aaand this is exactly what I teach and coach on. On Wednesday I start a 10-week in-person programme with a group of women on The Art of Being Healthy and Powerfully Feminine and have individual coaching programmes for women anywhere in the world. What an opportunity to practice what I teach and have even more compassion and understanding for the process of…
- empowering ourselves to create our dream lives,
- being able to feel feelings so we are not ruled by avoiding them,
- kicking those habits that are holding us back,
- getting out of struggle and confusion to make way for abundance and ease,
- realizing how our thoughts unleashed are creating our reality and how to transform this,
- training the mind to feel some beautiful wild freedom.
(And lots more goodness!)
In reality it can feel messy and confusing when you’re deep in the mud of your mind. It also takes a high level of consciousness and some work to break free. But it doesn’t have to take a long time. And the rewards are epic! You know this. I know you can feel it too.
Want to know more good news?
Life is always providing us with ways to realize that true power has to do with our connection to self, love, authenticity, and the inner mystery of life & to transform ourselves into authentically powerful beings.
Any spiritual or personal development mentor will tell you that doing ‘the work’ is like peeling back the layers of an onion. With each layer there is more to shed and yes, even cry about, as you get closer and closer to the truth of who you are.
The truth of who you are.
As I shared last week when I gave you 3 Ways to Be Your Best Lover, loving yourself wildly is the basis for getting into your true power and connecting to your inner resources. I promised you 3 more ways this week.
3 More Ways to Love yourself Wildly
Satisfy all your Desires
I’ll tell you a secret. I used to want to be famous because I thought that was really the only way to have a life of excitement and fulfillment. I spent a lot of time reading about and watching the lives of the rich and famous, but not a lot of time focusing on my own desires. I know I’m not alone on this.
Today social media has replaced our habit of ‘watching life’ or simply ‘capturing moments rather than really living it, really being happy and loved up with life.
When we feel ourselves slipping too much into voyeurism or getting lost in our memories or the life that will be so much better in the future when we have the money/time/support etc, there’s a quick remedy. Ask yourself…
What am I really hungry for? What feelings do I desire to feel? What did I feel back then? What will I feel in the future when I’ve reached that goal? How can I feel this now? What action can I take to cultivate this feeling?
A Powerfully Feminine Woman doesn’t wait for happiness or joy or love to find her by chance. She knows that true power is in the present and the fastest way to bring your desires closer is by cultivating the feelings of experiencing this today.
No one likes a stingy lover. Be generous with yourself.
Are you willing to invest in yourself? Buy yourself gifts, a bunch of flowers, some sexy snug sleepwear, the finest organic chocolate. Your best lover loves to shower you with gifts. And what about support? A personal trainer, a cleaner, an online course or a private coach who will help you be Healthy and Powerfully Feminine (I knew it!).
An investment in your mood is an investment in yourself.
Getting really in tune with your desires will also help you be more conscious and not spend mindlessly. It’s spiritual!
I know what you’re thinking. Who doesn’t love a good bargain? But isn’t getting the exact thing you desire way better than having 10 things you don’t really want?. Can you imagine if your partner bought you the thing something for your birthday just because it was on sale? You’d probably think he/she didn’t really value you (even if you tried to rationalize that saving the money was worth it). So it is with you and your relationship with yourself.
A Powerfully Feminine Woman is generous with herself. She is conscious and invests in herself, knowing that each time she looks at or experiences her purchase, she is reminded how much she values herself.
Keep your Promises.
Love is built on trust. Can you trust yourself? Or are there some unhelpful habits you just can’t seem to let go of? Self-mastery is not necessarily about having more discipline or will-power. It’s about understanding yourself and your motivations enough to work with your nature rather than against it and releasing any blocks that may be holding you back.
We can waste a lot of time doing things we don’t really want to do and lamenting all the bad habits we can’t seem to overcome. How we spend our days is how we spend our life. So are you truly living in a way that makes you happy? Are you being the person you are wild about?
When it comes to transformation, I believe in making teeny tiny achievable daily goals. Today I made one miniscule promise to myself that is taking all of my awareness to keep. I have to consistently remind myself why I want this, why this is good for me and what it means.
Making deals with myself, offering promises and rewards, doesn’t work. I totally cheat! What works is really truly understanding why I am doing something and having practices that stop the tiny mad ideas of the ego (in its very loud and incessant voice) from ruling my life.
A Powerfully Feminine Woman keeps her promises and knows she can count on herself. She isn’t always perfect and doesn’t aim to be, but she is the mistress of her life and works with her nature to behave in a way that feels more and more aligned with her truest self.
So my love, over to you! Let me know what you think about all this? How can you love yourself more wildly? Or are you already your best lover? Please share! It could be the exact thing that someone else needs to read.