Hello Warrior Queen!
I’ve given myself 45 minutes max to write this post so better get started!!
Did you know that in the past I sometimes spent hours writing these things!!
I’m sure you might’ve imagined with some of them.
A coach friend once said to me “It’s like reading a novel but I love it don’t stop.”
Before I became a coach I spent 7 years writing a novel and now you know why it took so long!!
I love to write.
And just lately I realized that this has not helped me at all in my business.
It may have helped others but it didn’t help me. Because I gave too much.
And it wasn’t that effective.
The main effect was that I was exhausted.
And got a brain tumour.
Not even kidding about that one. Stress causes the bad estrogen to go down the testosterone pathways.
There are 3 types of estrogen (2 are harmful and one is necessary for the heart and bone density)
This is what my naturopath told me (she’s had 3 breast cancer tumours herself. One was in her throat. So she’s a great person for me to talk to and very knowledgable).
She told me stress is the most important factor I need to minimize.
So that’s what I’ve been doing.
The thing is that we are all stressed.
The important thing is that we do something every day to wind down our level of stress. Otherwise we carry that stress as a new “stress set point” to the following day.
(Went to an awesome talk on this last night)
Stress leads to anxiety, which leads to insomnia and then depression.
Walking for 30 minutes a day reduces the effects of stress by 50%
I recognize now that I’d been in flight or fight mode and feeling a low-grade anxiety for the past 2 years.
What caused this anxiety?
Firstly, joining the coaching academy. I learnt many amazing things and my favourite part was meeting the most incredible women from around the world.
But it was open to both brand-new and experienced coaches and with most being active on social media and a private group for us to share our successes, I couldn’t help but compare myself.
Like, why can’t I sell one package when so many others are making $10 -$50K a month?!
I was very hard on myself.
I didn’t know better at the time.
It was actually the same year I was healing from breast cancer and though I did so much for that as in diet, exercise, radiotherapy and every alternative health treatment a health lover could imagine, at the same time I was so fixated on this course, comparing and pushing myself so much!!
I’m not blaming anyone. I have a tendency to get fixated. Or is it computers?
And besides this I had some very challenging life changes and situations ; deciding to end my marriage so that I could move back to my home city and finally put an end to the “grass is greener” thinking, years of indecision and homesickness. This was probably the hardest decision I’ve ever made.
Moving back here and starting life over was not easy. As all my close friends are married with young children, I had to create a new life for myself so that I would not miss Switzerland. Meanwhile it was the first year in my coaching business. Lots and lots of growth and change.
So how am I different now?
In lots of ways. Yesterday it gave me so much joy to throw away pages and pages of ideas.
And I’m also not writing down every idea anymore but focusing intently at the task on hand for a set amount of time.
I’m decluttering my mind.
If I don’t, I could be paying for it with my life.
Dramatic yes, but seriously…
What I haven’t shared publicly before (only hinted at) is that the tumour on the outside of my brain that was supposed to be benign was actually a breast cancer tumour (as it was estrogen receptive like the primary tumour).
This is what I was dealing with the week at the hospital (so many tests!) and ever since.
3 months ago vs. today…
It wasn’t even a small tumour!!
Crazy amazing things… had no symptoms till 3 weeks before the op … and after much testing and scanning, there are no other tumours in my body!! Bones, lungs, liver, pelvis, blood … there is much to be grateful for.
During the operation, the surgeon removed my whole brain sac and replaced it with an artificial one that’s made of cellulose. A new brain sac grows over this one. The body is amazing!! And modern science is amazing!!
3 months ago…
I have been undergoing radiotherapy the past 2 weeks (finished today) and have to have an injection monthly to close down my ovaries so I don’t produce estrogen and am supposedly in an induced menopause.
If you know or have been in this community for a while you will understand the significance of that little paragraph I just wrote. And the grieving that I had to go through.
Having kids has been taken off the table.
If you’ve read my ebook on being Queen of your Love Life you will also know how ironic this all is.
I said good-bye to the soul that I’d been feeling for the past few months had come to me and told her I would see her in another life time.
This has to be for a reason!!
It is all so significant that I am strengthened in my belief that things are happening for us, not to us.
I know that this happened so I can help others more. I have more empathy and understanding than ever.
In hindsight we might say, “Oh I shouldn’t have been so stressed!”
But you wouldn’t be the woman you are today if you hadn’t gone through what you’ve been through.
Today I feel stronger and more connected to myself, my family and friends and the wider community than ever.
Especially on Facebook, the love and support has been amazing!!
This support is the essential ingredient to dealing with the challenges of life.
As well as being able to feel your feelings (not distract yourself) and to train your mind to use its power.
This saved me from spiralling into anxiety or from going into a downer I couldn’t get out of from.
The radiotherapy mask cast into my smile 🙂
Did you know your repeated thoughts and behaviour remodel your brain?
So you can train your brain to be stressed or you can train it to think positively.
We have the power!!
Cast aside the little girl that says “I can’t” and unleash the Warrior Queen within.
From my wild and powerful heart to yours,
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