Are you allowing yourself to enjoy luxury?
When I lived in Switzerland, I used to love spending time in the beautiful hotel lobbies of five-star hotels like The Palace on Lake Lucerne. The grandeur of the building and the luxury, the service and the space created a feeling of grandeur, luxury and space inside me.
It uplifted and changed my energy.
Luxury is available to all of us and I like to call this “queening”.
It may sound frivolous but queening is actually important for your energy and your ability to manifest your desires.
This is what we spoke about at The Art of Abundance workshop. I shared this wealth consciousness practice of no longer thinking in terms of what is “cheap” or “expensive” but instead of purchases and experiences being high vibe or low vibe and the quality and value of the experience.
A box of hand-crafted lovingly-made gourmet chocolate might be more “expensive” than a packet of Cadburys on sale, but you will receive much more through the experience of savouring the higher vibe gourmet box.
We invest in an emotional experience with everything we purchase and we can choose to feel self-love and satisfaction.
Are you investing in yourself? Are you purchasing high-quality products and experiences? Are you gifting yourself exactly what you desire?
I used to be the biggest bargain hunter around – especially with clothes. I owned pants that didn’t fit properly and tops in colours I didn’t really like that much. Why? Because they were on sale!
But now I know better…
I don’t want 10 things I don’t really want. I desire to have my home, my body and my life filled with less but only what I truly desire. Imagine if, when you walk around your home, everything you looked at made you feel good, everything made you feel like you valued and loved yourself.
Last year when I was buying a new bedspread for myself, I hesitated over purchasing the one that was quite nice and I wouldn’t mind having (which was on sale) and investing in the beautiful soft one that I adored.
Yes it was an investment.
Everything we purchase is an opportunity to invest in ourselves and in our energy.
Queens invest in themselves.
Today I would like to define queening further…
A queen operates with intention and attention.
Queening might mean buying organic when it is important to you, it might be dressing in a way that makes you feel truly you, or having that fresh vitamin rich juice and drinking it from your finest crystal or taking yourself out for a beautiful lunch. It all comes down to intention – be really conscious of the fact that you are gifting yourself the experience and loving yourself abundantly. Whether it’s a cherished cup of coffee in the morning or a luxurious glass of champagne, queening is a feeling and a presence.
A queen goes within.
The energy of the feminine is contained within. You will not find it online. This will deplete your energy or put you in the masculine of reaching out and seeking. When you have worked with the feminine energy, you know what it feels like to draw your energy back inwards. It’s beautiful. Practice going within before you go out in the world.
A queen has desires.
While living in Europe and especially during the year in the coaching academy, I learned that I love beautiful hotels, vintage champagne, pink roses, weekly massages and first class travel. Not only this, I allowed myself to desire these things. I started to give these to myself even. Something we will practice in the Art of Desires session this Wednesday is simply allowing ourselves to “want what we want” and be in the desiring, because so often we cut ourselves off with the “I couldn’t” or “It’s too expensive” thinking, but when we allow ourselves to even desire something, it often manifests in the coolest way.
A queen has space.
Living in clutter makes your mind feel cluttered. One of the women from a previous Healthy + Powerfully Feminine group program was sharing at last week’s session that since she has been decluttering, she actually has more money and wants to buy less because she is really happy with what she has. She also has been able to work part-time and support herself through her career as a singer and musician. Decluttering is a way of clearing energy for your desires to come in and it is another Healthy + Powerfully Feminine Practice.
A queen knows how to ask for and receive support.
It is said that after men retire they often die early because they don’t know what to do with themselves anymore, don’t know what their role is in the family and outside of their job or where their place is. My Dad doesn’t have that problem. He knows he is needed! This is also because I am able to ask for and receive support without feeling guilty. It’s a win win! He loves to help and from my studies, what I have learned is that the empowered male loves to help and feel useful. It is often how they show their feelings. I’ve seen this with guys I’ve dated too. If you ask in a nice way without obligation, you will receive support.
A queen knows how to delegate.
A queen also invests in herself when she requires the support. The opposite of this is thinking that you have to do everything yourself and feeling burnt out and overwhelmed. This is not you at your most royal and this stressed out energy running through many women’s bodies today is not the powerfully feminine self. It is not the feminine energy at all. Queening requires time to go within and clear space and for this you may be required to invest in a cleaner or an assistant (even for a few hours a week) or a personal coach (even to transform your belief that you eed to do it all and perfectly). Where could you be investing in more support?
A queen doesn’t chase.
A queen allows solutions to emerge. When I would like an answer I take a walk at the beach. At my worst I sit at the computer trying to force one. A queen also doesn’t chase men but allows them to come to her and when she realises she is chasing (as it may be so subtle or so compulsive you may not realise it), she simply leans back and gets back into her power. A queen knows that if someone wants to be in her life they will make sure they are. If not, “Next!”. He’s just not that into you.
A queen has restricted access.
Not everyone has access to the queen. If you’re accepting friend requests from everyone online and it’s not for your business, what is it for? I don’t usually accept friend requests from men I don’t know and if I start to get an icky feeling, say if they are liking my old photos (and that means they are looking way way back and wanting my attention), I unfriend them on Facebook and block them on Instagram. Simple. I also wrote about restricting access to your energy before. Gift yourself with time. You don’t have to answer everyone back immediately. Let yourself be.
Let yourself luxuriate in the beauty and presence of yourself.
“Good things come to those who feel good.”
– Regena Thomashauer
Rise Queen Rise.
Your Queendom awaits.
Powerful woman, how are you queening today? What will you allow yourself to desire? What will you allow yourself to enjoy?
From my wild heart to yours,
Queen Mi xxx
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