How are you beautiful?
Oh I’m really happy at the moment!
It feels like for no reason, but I guess there are reasons.
I’ve reprogrammed my brain to be so.
I’ve felt the really deep feelings that needed to be felt.
(as I shared with you in the last few posts)
I’m really happy in my work and am looking forward to my first webinar and the online program.
I’ve been expressing my creativity more.
I have been attracting friendships with really awesome people.
I made the decision a few weeks back that NO ONE messes with my vibe.
(yeah I felt like some John Wayne character)
And it’s the weekend!!
(I’m taking this one off)
That’s what my body told me this week.
She said loud and clear, “Mireille you have been working too hard!”
I’m going to tell you how I heard this sacred message.
But can I just say that at the last Healthy + Powerfully Feminine a young woman said something that made me soooo happy.
She said that she was celebrating now seeing her body as a friend and from then on she was going to treat and speak to her body.
Like taking her body for walks as a way of caring for it (her) and enjoying the beauty in the world around her.
Oh my God!!
Do you know how proud I felt in that moment?!
I’ve got tears in my eyes as I write this and a fire in my heart.
It’s made me feel even more like a woman on a mission!!
Because I know this area, our bodies, is such a preoccupation for so many women in my tribe, let alone in the larger community where images of the ‘perfect’ woman’s body bombards us day and night.
Even if you are eating healthily, it doesn’t mean you are doing it out of love rather than fear.
The relationship we have with ourselves is the most important one we have.
So are you speaking to yourself with kindness?
And can you hear what you body is saying to you?
I have made a video on how I heard what my body told me this week and how I am running my business according to my menstrual cycle.
I’ll post the link at the end of this email. But first…
Being empowered means having a great relationship with our bodies and ourselves.
If we are using up brain space feeling bad about ourselves or consuming precious thoughts attacking ourselves, we cannot fully connect into the Divine creative mind and truly step out and find our passions and live our purpose.
That’s what I’ve experienced anyway.
Once upon a time, when I was in my 20s, I wondered, ‘What would I think about if I wasn’t thinking about this?’
And by this I meant my body, my fat, losing weight, my breasts, pimples, grey hairs, my mustache, my crooked teeth, the hair in awkward places and that disproportionate fat that gathered at the top of my thighs since I was about 15.
Oh I had shed many tears over those lumps of fat!
Last night at yoga as I did pigeon pose those lumps of fat stood out like never before.
No, I didn’t find it the most beautiful sight I’d ever seen.
But I sent my body love and got on with the practice.
Afterwards I went to Thai with my gorgeous friend.
She mentioned something about how hot the female instructor was and she envisioned herself having that body.
I realised at that moment that, although I had thought how toned our yoga teacher’s body was, I hadn’t for one second wished it for myself or thought worse about myself.
I didn’t want her body.
Not because I thought ‘Oh but she’d have to work so hard for it’ or ‘Oh but her breasts were fake.’
That kind of thinking feels bitter and disempowering to me.
I very much admired her breasts, fake or not.
I just didn’t want her body because I didn’t think about it.
Oh wow how far I’ve come.
I’m not trying to say I’m now ‘perfect’ or totally immune. What gets to me a bit are those Fitinspo IG accounts.
I dated guys who followed accounts like that and it made me wonder what they thought of me if this was their ideal.
But it also makes me sad that so many women are so obsessed with having an arse that looks like a peach and so many people worship these arses.
Like, hello, there are real things happening in the world. Though who am I to judge? Some people might think the same about me.
When I was obsessed with losing weight, immediately in any newspaper or magazine I’d turn to the ‘diet and exercise’ section.
Later it became a real interest in health and I’m grateful because this has led me to know a lot about nutrition and with all my experimenting, what works psychologically too.
Nowadays, I eat for my health, but it’s coming from a place of love, not fear.
And I’m not obsessed.
One of my darling Healthy + Powerfully Feminine students (for want of a better word) said that she just wishes she didn’t think about her body at all.
So it wouldn’t stop her from going to the beach or living an awesome life.
That’s how she wants to feel.
And if this is how you’re feeling too, wherever you are on the scale, I am living proof that it’s possible!!
I am someone who put on weight when I was dancing 6 days a week in New York and despite imbibing French Women Don’t Get Fat more times than I can remember, I did get fat in France!!
French women might not get fat, but Australian women in France do!
Or I did, once upon a time.
But my message to you is not about weight-loss.
It’s that when you love yourself and explore your passions, you will naturally be your healthy and radiant self, without the preoccupation with food or body.
I’m sharing my story though, in case you can relate to any of it.
It wasn’t the putting on weight or not that was the real struggle, it was the obsession with my next meal and the self-loathing.
This is what I discovered in my healing…
If I can always eat what I wanted without guilt, then I don’t want it as much.
If I focus on health and feeding my body well because I love her, then it will be a lot easier to be healthy.
That was a dream for me when I was obsessed with losing weight, binge eating, binge exercising, calorie counting, low carb dieting, peeling the batter off fish to eat the flacid flesh within… so much non-sense!
These days I eat a full-fat everything diet (that reduced fat milk is not helping) and I share some more stories from my health journey in this video. Plus, a photo from back then to show you the difference.
How I went from body obsessed to … not even thinking about it.
Having a great relationship with your body is essential to being Healthy and Powerfully Feminine because our bodies talk to us.
We often hear our intuition in the form of feelings from our body.
This is your Divine gift!!
The more you cut the noise in your head, the more you can hear this wise self within.
I have also helped women to overcome their own obsessions – one client quit bulimia after her 20 year habit, another I helped to cut down on sugar and start eating normally.
I’m feeding my body with love and helping other beautiful souls to do the same.
Do you desire this too?
The Body Love module from the Healthy + Powerfully Feminine program can now be purchased for $27 from the shop at my new Zen French Woman’s site. Click here to discover more.
And if you’re a fan of Body Love already and would like to share this with your loved ones, please do. I definitely think I went through that craziness over the 14 years so that I could help others to make it easy too.
Everything is happening exactly as it should be in perfect timing.
If you feel and know you’d like to learn how to Love your Body Beautiful and practise this way of being, the module is designed to teach and facilitate this process. You will also be able to ask me any questions about it as you go.
And if you know anyone who would enjoy or benefit from hearing this message or may be interested, please do share this and tell your friends and loved ones.
I’d love it so much if my message reached more women of every age! It’s never too late to begin again or too soon to become wiser. Thanks so much!
Sending so much love to you!
From my wild heart to yours,