My Best Relationship Advice

My Love,

It feels scary to write this. My best relationship advice? Ego says, “You’re no expert!” No. But I am a keen student. The truth is that I’ve spent the last five years  learning about and observing dating and relationships. So I am offering you some of what I’ve learnt today.

1. Go to sleep angry. The experts may disagree but for me this works. In law of attraction terms, we receive thoughts according to our vibrational reality. So when we are tired we have lower quality thoughts. Plus, when we hold a thought for 17 seconds, it gains momentum, and attracts thoughts of the same frequency. That’s why transformation gurus like Tony Robbins swear as a pattern interrupt. We’d only have to focus on something else for 17 seconds, like our lovely comforting pillow, to create that for ourselves. In the morning, we wake with new perceptions and fresh thoughts.

2. Feel your feelings and express them. Realise that the other person is most likely doing their best too. Don’t assume they have bad intentions. Communication is key. For a guy, they talk best while doing other things, like having a beer or playing golf. People are also more open to suggestions when you see the good in them also. Start with something like “This isn’t your fault. It’s just that I noticed..” or “I really appreciate how you.. and also it would be great if we could..” Saying we makes it less blameful. These are techniques of a master negotiator. I know. I’m not perfect at it either. But still.

3. Communicate your desires and needs. Otherwise we become resentful and then that seeps out or explodes at inappropriate times. The subconscious mind is seeking an outlet for these suppressed emotions. But then we hate ourselves and wonder why we are so angry. Learning to communicate my emotions and what I want has been such a game changer for me. It’s made me a much happier person and way better to be around. That’s why I created the Empower guide to help.

4. Learn how your partner experiences love and give it. Your man may protest, but if you don’t know what his love language is, you can take this test to find out. Learn what yours is too or, even better, get him to ask you. Yes he may hate it but tough. This is important to you. Express it. My love language is words of affirmation. If he forgets? You can remind him. Not all the time, just occasionally. And yes you can teach an old dog new tricks.

5. See the positive. I don’t mean blindly see the positive as I used to do. That might mean you make yourself susceptible to narcissists and players. But if you are in a happy and/or committed relationship, by making lists of their positive aspects, you begin to see it more. You could even list out their pros and cons and you’ll probably find that the pros is much longer than the cons.

There you go my dear, as I said, I’m not a qualified expert but these are five tips that have helped me. Relationships are such a key area that can lift us up or bring us down like little else. And the crazy thing is, we don’t usually learn how to be good at it. But we can.  Learning to manifest too has been so helpful in creating a constructive relationship and in becoming the person able to receive it.

With so much love,

Mireille xx

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Why Shit Happens.. Even When You’re A Manifesting Ninja!

My love,

I’m feeling really excited because I’ve finally finished Loving! It’s a transformational guide about loving yourself, loving your life and manifesting. I wanted to include all I would include if I ran a course again. I first learnt about the power of the mind and energy to manifest when I was 24. But actually I started doing it much younger, from age eight, when I started dancing.

Too tired to practise, I’d lie in bed and rehearse the steps in my head. Then when I went to do it, I’d be able to as if I had been physically practising. Then when I was 12 I won the cross-country. I hadn’t been so great at athletics till the year before. Dancing 13 hours a week made me super fit. But there was one other girl who was better than me at the cross country. I prayed and visualised winning, just like with dancing (aka imagining), and I did.

When I started my coaching business in 2014, I’d teach manifesting through my course, workshops and private coaching. But after the breast cancer metastasised, I got shy about it. I felt like I’d failed, when really it was just that Life had more to teach me.

During that period I had off, I learned about the art of simplicity and organisation and implemented it. This is a key aspect of manifesting too because when we’re stressed, we’re not in alignment. I was using ‘the power of joy’ then to build my life back up, but better than before. Soon, I learned that this was the law of attraction and I spent a few years studying and practising this.

Why does shit happen (even when you’re consciously creating)? Because the purpose of life is to awaken into consciousness and everything happens for a reason. Sometimes you are not ready for what you want so you get the letting in process. There is usually a silver lining. Feel your emotions and process. But then, know that everything happens for you and not to you. Our souls need to go on a journey to fulfil our life’s purpose.

Why am I so passionate about manifesting? Because, like you, I’ve had some huge challenges in life to overcome, like cancer, and because I have a low tolerance for living a life I don’t love. And being a person I don’t love. And being around people who aren’t good for me. I majored in psychology at uni and have been interested in the mind since before then. Plus, I hate to see other people suffering and would like to share what I know and what I do.

I’ve included my 11-step formula for manifesting in Loving and 4-step process for manifesting on the go. But first there is work to do to get to that. It’s 55 pages and available for immediate download. I’m feeling very happy and proud of this guide. It’s a transformational journey.

With so much love,

Mireille xx

 

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The Art of Flow in 2021

Sometimes my heart works faster than my brain. Last Monday was such an experience. I’d been working on Loving, a new guide I’ll be bringing out in a few weeks, and loving it. But I woke up on Monday feeling tired physically. I realised I needed a break and wanted to head to the beach. Instead, I ended up following my heart to buy a bean bag and there I found some storage containers. I came home to take apart this big cupboard in my office and, five hours later, was still unscrewing it.

One week later, the whole room is being repainted. It turned out to be a bigger job than I could have imagined but the right support showed up and I ended up manifesting the exact thing I was visualising the week before! Often I think about something I want and it ends up happening. But sometimes what I want looks like something I don’t want at first. And that can be scary.

In August last year, not only did I find out I had tumours in my spine and was having treatment for it, as I wrote last week, but then I realised half my face was numb. I couldn’t taste food or drinks on that side, which was the worst part, and couldn’t feel my eyelid when I was putting makeup on. Plus, I’d be drooling out of the right side when I lay down. On top of the shit that was already going wrong, it was a lot to take.

At first I thought it was from the steroids to reduce the swelling but then realised it wasn’t that. At the end of 2019, I had a wisdom tooth removed  and thought it could be related. My mum said to find a certain dentist but I couldn’t and so I ended up at this other one with an expert, who wouldn’t do anything for me because I’d been on this medication for bone metastasis, but he sent me to an oral surgeon instead.

Basically, I was supposed to come off the medication six months prior to having any dental work done. The medication stops the bone cells from eating away the old cells, so that the cancer doesn’t cause even more deterioration. But when you have dental work, you need the old cells to be eaten away so the new cells don’t grow on top of the old. So that was causing the issue. But first I had to get another scan because it could’ve been from a tumour in my jaw and, meanwhile, I still had half a numb face.

Because I decided to stop all medication that December of 2019, as I was doing the NORI and all my tests were good, I didn’t write that I was on that bone medication, so the dentist who took my wisdom tooth out didn’t know. But if I had stayed on the medication, the problem could have been a lot worse! The oral surgeon said that the oncologists don’t see the end result of the medication. Patients sometimes have to have part of their jaw cut out because of it and then their sinus collapses.

But my numb face saved me from going back on the medication. And the diet also, even though it didn’t work out as I’d wanted it to. That’s why I always say that things are working out for the best. This is what my mum told me when I was really down at the end of 2016, something that had kept her going through some very tough times. Everything happens for a reason. We only have to see it. When we do, life can be quite magical, despite the hard bits. Or because of this.

Naturally, it feels really bad when we’re going through it and presence is all we can manage then. Practising it. I share my process in Empower : a free guide to help process emotions, change thoughts and return to peace and happiness. So much feels like it’s going wrong right now as we are being invited, in the Age of Aquarius, to awaken into greater consciousness, from 3D to 5D reality, apparently. I can believe it. 

As my ‘break’ that turned into a renovation exemplifies, the heart leads us, one bread crumb to the next, to where we are going. Uplift is a transformational mini-guide to turn your life around, create an upward spiral and spark high-vibe conversation.

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Lots of love,

Mireille xx

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Love to feel peaceful and happy but too busy to do anything about it? Tired of the turmoil? Discover how to train your mind in 20 minutes a day to experience presence and flow, happiness and harmony, no matter what is happening around you with metastatic breast cancer warrior and author, Mireille Parker.

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Sarah can’t escape herself, even overseas. Will she call hot Oliver? Who doesn’t even know she’s there! But who is this beautiful artist Bonnie? Set in Lucerne, Switzerland, and starring a travel agent from Perth, Australia, Wonderlust is a unique modern philosophical romance about creative women.

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NORI Diet for Cancer : Why I Quit

Last year I wrote about my love for the NORI diet for cancer and today I am writing about it again because it was a very popular post and I occasionally have women going through breast cancer write to ask me about it. I am not an expert in any way, but I have had hormone receptive breast cancer for seven years, with metastasis for the last five. So I have tried a lot of different diets, as well as being on oestrogen production inhibitors, Zoladex and Kisquali, and Exemestane, which is similar to Tamoxifen. I am simply sharing my experience here.

What is the NORI Protocol?

To recap, The NORI Protocol is a therapeutic four-month vegan low protein diet with a lot of supplements and no alcohol. It needs to be done with a practitioner, who will look at monthly blood tests to see if levels, such as Vitamin D and magnesium, are high enough. The theory is that the diet starves the body of methionine, an amino acid that the body doesn’t produce itself, and this mimics the effects of fasting.

Did you stick to it?

I started the NORI in September 2019 and finished on January 9th of 2020. And I stuck to it almost 100%. I think there was only one occasion when I drank a cider and at the end, on a trip to Phuket, that I ate some rice. This was not allowed on the diet, except for the four days out after every ten when vegan methionine- containing foods were allowed. Like olives and starches besides potatoes.

What was the effect?

The diet had a really positive effect on the tumour marker in my blood tests. A healthy marker is considered below 50 and mine had always been less than 20. But after a few months on the NORI, it went to 6 and remained there even after I stopped and was eating a mostly vegan diet with a maximum of one alcoholic drink a week.

However, the tumour marker is not the whole story.  I had clear scans too in February and was thrilled that everything was so great. My reason behind wanting to do such a diet and then adopt veganism and little alcohol was because I wanted to go off the medication, and be cured for good.  So that eventually I could realise my dream of falling pregnant and having a baby.

Why did you do the NORI again?

Without going into all the details now, in July last year I ended up in hospital. The knots in my glutes that wouldn’t come out and pins and needles in my right leg, both of which had started in January, turned out to be more tumours. I started on the NORI as soon as I found out and once again it had the great effect on my blood tests, lowering the tumour marker straightaway.

Then I started the medication again and had radiotherapy for the tumours. Because of this, they went. But I continued to do the NORI as well, since it’s meant as a complementary therapy, even though it was extremely difficult to deprive myself when I was going through so much. I felt like I had Herculean will-power but it wasn’t very fun.

Why did you stop?

After a few months of the diet, I quit. The first time was because I started crying at the dinner table. Tears were running down my cheeks as I faced one more potato salad, while my parents were eating something regular and delicious. I put my head down so they wouldn’t see, but my dad asked if I was alright. “I hate this food!” I cried. “Well don’t eat it then,” he said. “Just eat what you want.”

So I did. I stopped the diet. And I was so elated to be able to eat a tuna sandwich again. Still, after paying so much for all the supplements, I thought to take them. Well, after vomiting fifty times, no exaggeration, I decided Life was trying to tell me to stop and so I did. That was in early September and I have been eating a regular diet since, with meat, dairy and alcohol, back on the medication since July, and have had increasingly low tumour markers and a recent clear scan since.

What else do you do?

Besides diet, I meditated for two hours a day in September and October but since then back to 30 minutes daily. I exercise a few times a week and mostly go swimming and walking at the beach once or twice a week. One thing I didn’t like about the NORI protocol and the particular course I did as part of it was the overload of exercises to accompany it, like the Wim Hof breathing method. After being in this for seven years, as I said, I have come to value simplicity and ease more than anything. Trying to do it all caused stress and confusion for me. But of course, it’s a journey.

What have you learned?

One thing I realised is that perhaps NORI is effective for cancer that doesn’t have to do with hormones. Because if oestrogen and progesterone stimulate my tumours, why would a diet affect it, if the diet doesn’t affect my hormones or not to the extent that is needed? Secondly, if there was one thing I’d definitely do differently, it would be to go on Zoladex and have the induced menopause when it was first recommended to me in 2014. That would have saved me a lot of metastasis perhaps. But maybe not. It was only with the addition of Kisquali in 2018 that the metastasis seemed to stop. In any case, Life has taught me many things in this time and I am extremely thankful for that.

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I’ve created Empower : a free guide to help process emotions, change thoughts and return to peace and happiness and Uplift : a transformational mini-guide to turn your life around, create an upward spiral and spark high-vibe conversation. They go together really well. Stay tuned for Loving, coming in a few weeks and subscribe to hear more from me.

Lots of love,

Mireille xx

 

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Love to feel peaceful and happy but too busy to do anything about it? Tired of the turmoil? Discover how to train your mind in 20 minutes a day to experience presence and flow, happiness and harmony, no matter what is happening around you with metastatic breast cancer warrior and author, Mireille Parker.

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Sarah can’t escape herself, even overseas. Will she call hot Oliver? Who doesn’t even know she’s there! But who is this beautiful artist Bonnie? Set in Lucerne, Switzerland, and starring a travel agent from Perth, Australia, Wonderlust is a unique modern philosophical romance about creative women.

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Break-ups, Crisis & Daily Mishaps to FLOW & Happiness

My dear, last year someone broke up with me for being too “spiritual”. I know what he meant and that’s perfectly fine. I was actually really thankful that he was so clear and honest with me. But still, for a while, and with the events of last year, it rocked my confidence. When I started seeing a psych in September, I expressed that I didn’t know what to believe anymore. But as life and our sessions progressed, I came to realise that I actually do have many beliefs and practices that are helpful to myself and to others.

So that’s why I’ve started sharing them more. Each time there is some mishap or some difficult person or situation to deal with, I use my practices even more and give them to those who need help. I know of people going through really tough situations right now, like a dad who’s not been able to see his two young sons for a year because his ex has made false claims about him. I would like people who are going through stuff like that to know that it’s entirely possible to turn your life around, but you have to believe you can affect the outcome.

One thing to know about the law of attraction is that the vibration of the problem is not the same as that of the solution. When you’re sitting there trying to figure stuff out, the solution is elusive, but when you go for a walk or go do something else, it comes. Last week I had a really strange thing happen. My car registration was due and had been paid but the money returned to the bank account. I got on the phone to pay or figure out what was going on and while I was waiting, I heard some useful information on the recorded message and knew that I needed to go to The Department of Transport.

So off I went. It was a Wednesday afternoon and Perth was in a semi-lockdown so  all the social distancing procedures were in effect. I was a little stressed by this situation because I didn’t know what was going on and by the time I got to the counter, I could tell this was not the right lady to get. She kept telling me to stand back when I moved from my spot and then told me I had to take my car to the pits because the number plates had been cancelled. When I told her I still had the number plates she was confused and went to get advice. Meanwhile I stood on my spot, masked up, till she came back and told me to return with my number plates.

In a panic, I thought to go home and get back there that day, but there was a lot going on, school-hour traffic, and so I decided to return in the morning when I was fresh. So that is what I did. The problem was resolved easily and effortlessly, with my new energy, and I didn’t have to wait long. The lady said that it had been an error and I accepted that, knowing everything happens for a reason, including this. I actually ended up with a few added bonuses, including money saved.

Thinking that “It shouldn’t have happened” or how annoying it was that I had to run around when it was their fault would have been a waste of time and energy. It should have happened because it did. But I know when you’re going through something big or small, it can be hard to get to this place of peace and flow. That’s why I’ve created a couple of guides to help. Uplift is a transformational mini-guide to help anyone wanting to turn their life around,  get out of a slump and start going in an upwards direction or for those who would love some High Vibe Conversation starters. The other is Empower : a free guide to help process emotions, change thoughts and return to peace and happiness.

Lots of love,

Mireille xx

 

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Love to feel peaceful and happy but too busy to do anything about it? Tired of the turmoil? Discover how to train your mind in 20 minutes a day to experience presence and flow, happiness and harmony, no matter what is happening around you with metastatic breast cancer warrior and author, Mireille Parker.

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Sarah can’t escape herself, even overseas. Will she call hot Oliver? Who doesn’t even know she’s there! But who is this beautiful artist Bonnie? Set in Lucerne, Switzerland, and starring a travel agent from Perth, Australia, Wonderlust is a unique modern philosophical romance about creative women.

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