I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.
This is one of the top five regrets of the dying.
Last week was a major step for me in living a life true to myself. It was the day I stepped out from behind the computer and did something I really loved and am so passionate about – teaching about what it means to be Healthy and Powerfully Feminine and HOW.
Today I’d love to share with you HOW I did it because I know that you have a desire to create something you’re proud of and live a life true to yourself. Maybe you’re already on that journey. Or perhaps you are just getting started or beginning to feel it’s your time. It is.
Whether my clients have had their own businesses or are employed and working for a company, I’ve never met one who didn’t have ambitions, inklings and glimpses caught of what they would like to make and do and how they would love to be.
And the universal truth?
What you seek is seeking you.
Your desires were implanted in you for a reason. Own them. Confess.
Claim your right to live the life of your wildest dreams.
It’s not too hard.
It’s not too far off.
You don’t have to settle for second best.
You don’t have to say “this will do”.
If it’s possible for someone else it’s possible for you too.
This is the perfect time to create in your careers with the full moon this Wednesday in Capricorn – sign of ambition and diligence.
In the workshop I spoke of how I had used both my masculine and feminine qualities to organize the day. And as I wrote about in my last post, I like to think of this as being a Goddess Warrior – with the focus, assertion and sense of purpose of the warrior with the intuition, playfulness and magnetism of the goddess.
I’d been conceiving the Healthy and Powerfully Feminine workshop in my mind and on paper for about six months, but between when I booked the venue, marketed it, finalised the content and held the event, there was only 2 weeks. This meant 2 weeks of ‘holding the vibration’ (in coachy speak) and the belief that women actually wanted to come to this event and would come. This going public with your desires and risking failure is what stops many from living a life true to themselves. So today I’d love to share with you what I learned from my experience.
The Warrior Goddess & The Art of Desire
Know what your true desire is. What’s the one thing you really want to do? Connect to it.There’s so much power in this clarity. Too many people spend their lives merely wishing or vaguely desiring many things without real focus. A Warrior Goddess selects her target and goes after it.
Start at the beginning. The best advice I received early this year is to look at how the people you admire started and take inspiration from that. So often we compare our beginning with someone’s middle or end and it paralyzes us. The goddess is born in you, but all warriors must go through initiation.
Focus on your feelings. Connect to why you desire what you do. How will it make you feel? What can you do to feel it today? Years before I became a life coach, I started doing personal development work with my English as a foreign language students. Likewise, starting a blog connected me with my desire to be a writer at a time when I didn’t have much time to write. So whatever you want to feel, feel it now. And don’t forget to already feel grateful. This is the way of the Goddess Warrior.
Educate Yourself. In preparation for my workshop I went to other people’s workshops and also a workshop about giving workshops. And it gave me great pleasure to apply this and what I know about marketing from all my training and observations to something I’m so passionate about. Goddess Warriors need mentors and training but…
Don’t wait for the perfect time. “Whatever you think you can do or believe you can do, begin it, action has magic, grace and power in it” (Goethe). The Goddess Warrior knows how to be flexible, to course-correct and go with the flow. As soon as you take the first step, you will have more clarity on what the next step is. Begin.
EnJOY the journey. I know this sounds like something that annoying people say. But joy is an emotion with the highest vibration and YOUR JOY IS MAGNETIC. Desperate energy is not. When you are so enthused by what you are sharing, your vibrant passion is infused in whatever you do and people can feel this. The Warrior Goddess takes pleasure in the process.
You cannot struggle to joy. Struggle and joy are not on the same channel. You joy your way to joy. You laugh your way to success. It is through your joy that good things come. -Abraham
Come out of the cave. There’s a time to really nurture your dreams and only share what’s in your heart with a few trusted people. But there’s also a time to step out and ‘go public’. What may surprise you is how many people around you want you to win. There are always going to be the naysayers and the cynics but realising you have a loving tribe of supporters makes it sooo much easier.
Surround yourself with people who believe in you. I was astounded by the support and interest I got from friends, clients, colleagues, family, ex-students, local business owners and new people I met. What you give comes back to you. So give support and you will receive it. Believe in yourself and others will believe in you. The Warrior Goddess knows the value in connection and community. This was one of the reasons some women came to the Healthy and Powerfully Feminine workshop – to find this tribe of loving, soulful people.
Look after your energy. As Gabby Bernstein says “Your vibe attracts your tribe”. The vibe you give off speaks much louder than the words you say. Besides this, when you are deep in creation mode, producing a lot, you definitely need to restore your energy and give back to yourself in a really grounded way. I did this through eating well, going to bed early (okay I always do that) and with as many Kundalini yoga sessions as I could as The Sowilo Soul Centre and massage – practices which helped me return home to my body. I also had to give up some behaviour (and some apps) that was draining my energy and not aligned with my vision of what I was creating. All goddesses know the value of self-care. The warrior too needs to replenish her energy.
Focus on how you will make others feel. Whatever you desire to make manifest will be a blessing to others too. While preparing for the Healthy and Powerfully Feminine workshop, I kept imagining how much the women attending would love it and how much it would help them. My mind naturally wandered there. I know for many this is a challenge. We have emotional blocks and self-doubt that stops us from knowing the value of what we are here to do. This is addressed in the Healthy and Powerfully Feminine workshop – with practices to overcome them.
Connect to your deeper purpose. Whenever I would feel doubt creep in or this uncertain energy, I would connect to my higher purpose – to be love and spread love. I know it may sound corny, but about 2 years ago, I asked my inner guide what my purpose was and that’s what I heard. So whatever I do, whether it’s teaching English or coaching or writing or delivering the workshop, my aim is to bring the love. The night before the workshop at the Kundalini class for opening the Heart Chakra, I was reminded of my higher purpose receiving the Angel of Love card. Bliss!
Tap into your Intuition. Developing your intuition makes everything easier. Creativity flows through you. You get sudden inspiration on what your next move should be, who you should call, what you should post and what not. Plus it’s fun! Intuition was one aspect of being Powerfully Feminine that the women at the workshop were all keen to develop and I took them through a 7 step-process for accessing it.
If you are getting the hunch or intuitive inkling that this workshop might be something for you, go with it. You never know what it could illuminate or where it may lead you next on your journey!
There are several more important aspects to align yourself with the way of the Warrior Goddess :
Amp up your connection to Spirit.
Take action now
Relax into the Flow. Surrender.
Loving you wildly,
Mi xxx
p.s. Let me know what you’re creating or what you’d love to create in the comments below.
